Rage and Fear Are Terrible Companions

I woke today to a cool, wet April morning.  The rain is the perfect excuse to stay indoors today and read a good book or make a pot of soup, but first I must write the next chapter of my story.  I don’t really want to write it; I know anger will grip me in its fist and squeeze all of the moment’s joy right out of me.  If I remain silent, though, I help to perpetuate the problem of rampant medical malpractice and negligence and the ensuing cover-ups by doctors and the institutions that employ them.  So, here I go, traveling back to July 6th, 2017.

Amy and I are still in Rochester, Minn. at the Mayo Clinic.  Dr. Elliot had ordered a battery of tests for me when I saw her on July 3rd.  On the 5th, all of my internal organs had been x-rayed or scanned and a pint of blood had been sucked from my veins.  I had also seen an allergist, which was a waste of time.  Having no rash at the moment for the doctor to look at, he had told me to take an extra antihistamine if the rash returned, which I knew from experience would do no good at all.  Now, Amy and I wait to see Dr. Elliot.  Because she had been so confident the first time we saw her, we are sure she will have a plan for desensitizing me to the chemo medication.

The wee doctor slips into the exam room, acknowledges our presence, sits at the counter, and opens her laptop.  She pulls up my file, begins scanning my test results, and blurts, “Why are you anemic?”  The way she asks the question, I feel like we are playing a game of Clue and she’s a detective asking “Why did you kill Miss Scarlet with the candlestick and leave her in the conservatory?”

“Um, I didn’t know I was anemic,” I say.  My answer does not please her.

“You could have internal bleeding,” she says.  “I’ll put in an order for a stool sample kit that you can pick up on your way out.”  Oh joy.

She continues scanning my test results.  Of course, my white count is high because I have been off chemo for five weeks, but it’s not dangerously high like it was the previous September.  Everything else looks okay, she says.  My spleen is not enlarged, my liver is functioning well, and my heart and lungs are doing their parts just fine.  Then she looks from her screen to me and says, “Well, what do you want to do?”  Her question stuns me.  Quick thinking not being in my genes, I have no immediate answer. The slow processor in my brain is inherited from my father.  He was a very smart man, and his responses were always well thought it and clearly expressed, but time was not money to him.  Many were the times that the family sat around the dinner table talking until someone asked him a question.  Then a long silence would ensue.  Just when we had decided he either did not hear the question or did not want to answer it, he would start speaking, offering a thoughtful, articulate response.  I am not as thoughtful or articulate as my father was, but I am just as slow.  And when I am angry or hurt or surprised, my processor goes from slow to sloooooooooooooooooooooooow, and tears threaten to fall.

Dumbfounded, I stare at her.  Later, in the hotel room, I will scream, “What the fuck did she mean ‘what do I want to do?’  She’s the doctor!  She’s the one who’s supposed to have the answers!  Two days ago she acted like this would be no problem.  Where did that doctor go?  These people with their fancy degrees and God complexes.  Do they get their kicks screwing with suffering people or are they just incompetent boobs impersonating competent doctors?”  In the moment, as tears gather in my eyes, I say something like, “What are my options?”

She explains that desensitization is not an option because I was already taking the lowest dose of Sprycel available, 20 mgs., and I think Didn’t you know that the first time I saw you?  I knew that and I am not a hematology/oncology doctor at one of the top hospitals in the country.  I bite the words back as alienating her will not help me a bit.  She goes on to say that the only medication I have never tried tends to cause strokes on a regular basis, so that drug is out.  I can either try Gleevec again, which did not work all that well for me in the past and had lots of unpleasant side effects, or I can take the Sprycel and live with the rash, or I can have a bone marrow transplant since I had a matching donor.  However, she does not recommend that last option except as the only alternative to death by CML.

Never having seen my chemo rash, Dr. Elliot does not understand just how bad it is when it’s active, but I know living with that rash is not an option.  1) It interferes drastically with my quality of life, and 2) it would likely reach a level of toxicity that my body just could not handle without taking prednisone for the rest of my days, which would also destroy my quality of life.  It looks like returning to Gleevec is my best option.

Though it is impossible to know if I will have an allergic reaction to Gleevec until I took it, I figure I will.  It stands to reason that I am now allergic to some basic component of the chemo that is present in all of the medications and not some inactive ingredients that are different in each medication, so I ask if I can take a very small dose of Gleevec and build up over time to prevent an allergic reaction to it.  “I cannot recommend that,” she says “because it’s not an efficacious dose.  If the cancer continues to escalate, it might become uncontrollable while you are taking low doses of Gleevec.  Then you will have to have a transplant, and you do not want that.”  I nod my understanding and agree to take the dose she prescribes.

As we all rise to part company, Dr. Elliot hands me an 8 X 11 envelope, and says, “These are yours.” Then she opens the door and leaves.  I watch as the wee doctor disappears around a corner.  And the hope that filled me just two days ago vanishes like Darrin when Endora snaps her fingers.  Defeated and deflated, Amy and I head for the shuttle stop in front of the main building to return to our hotel.  We walk in silence as we try to swallow this unpalatable reality.

When we get back to the hotel room, I open the envelope Dr. Elliot gave to me.  Inside are the records that Washington University had sent to her.  For ten years of quarterly visits, the sheaf of papers is awfully thin.  Quickly scanning the documents, I realize why the papers are so few; all that was sent to Dr. Elliot was a year-end summary of my care for 2005-2015 and the report of my most recent visit in May.  No mention of my chemo break in 2016 and the subsequent relapse; no mention of the allergy I had developed to the medications; just a sunny report of how great I was doing at the end of May.  For the second time today I am blind-sided.  I feel like a boxer on the ropes taking a one-two punch that takes my breath away.  I tell Amy what I am holding in my hand, and she crosses the room to take a look.  “They are covering something up,” I say.  Amy agrees.  “I’m going to sue them!” I yell.  Amy lets me rant as I struggle with Rage.

For me, Rage is a physical enemy that takes control of my body.  It starts in my toes, arching them to ballerina pointe.  It climbs up my legs tensing my thighs.  It spills adrenaline and cortisol into my blood stream preparing me to fight or take flight.  It turns my gut into a hard fist that punches up into my throat.  The fist unclasps and the fingers tie my vocal chords in a knot so that the primal scream I so desperately want to expel cannot escape.  My body is primed for action, but there is no action to take.  I cannot take flight from my cancer or the allergy, and I really don’t know who to fight.  Washington University Physicians is a huge entity.  I sense with my whole being that someone there screwed up my cancer care somehow, but that’s hardly a clear enemy to do battle with.  So I am filled with impotent Rage that is toxic to my system, and I’ve no idea how to subdue it.

After crying for a few hours, I succumb to exhaustion and sleep.  The next morning we pack up the car and head for home.  As the miles spin away, we talk about my options and decide that modifying my Gleevec dose is the best course of action.  I will start with a very small dose every other day and build from there.  Perhaps that will desensitize me to whatever it is I am allergic to in these chemo drugs.  I know that I am taking a risk, but I will not live with lobster claws for hands and skin covered with a rash that drives me to madness with its itching.  My course of treatment decided, we talk about suing Dr. Cashen and N.P. Comer and Washington University Physicians.  I vow to get all of my medical records to find out what they did not want Dr. Elliot to see, hire a lawyer, and make them pay for all of the pain, misery, fear, and heartache their mistake has caused me.  (I will later learn that the system is rigged in favor of the medical establishment so that the vast majority of injured patients never see justice served.) I add those two tasks to the list of things I need to accomplish before I return to the classroom in August, including getting divorced, selling the marital property, buying another house, and moving.  If what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, I will be Atlas by the end of 2017.  But that will only happen with the support of my sisters and my friends.

One of the few positive effects of this experience on my life is the heightening of my gratitude for friends and family.  Every day, I thank my higher power for the people in my life who love me despite my many flaws and stand by me in hard times.  Without them, I do not know where I would be today.  Had I been alone in Rochester, Minn. when Hope vanished, or in Rochester, IL when my marriage dissolved, I don’t know what I would have done.  With Fear and Rage as my only companions, I may have ended a 15-year run of sobriety or ended my life.  In July, Sister Amy saved me from facing Fear and Rage alone, and in August, Sister Laura will rescue me.  I will be forever grateful and indebted to them.  Gloria Gaynor is singing “I Will Survive” in my head, but I know I will not survive alone.

The Doctors’ White Wall

In his last days, my father passed the hours looking out the window at the sky from his hospice bed.  Over and over he said, “I just love looking at that blue sky.”  I’m not sure why those words hit me so hard, but every time he said them, I fell apart and had to leave the room to pull myself together.  Eleven months later, every time I see him in my mind’s eye, lying in bed looking out the window, his words echoing in my ears, the ache of missing him brings on the tears.  I let them flow until the aching in my heart subsides, for now.  Then I think about those eight little words, just a simple sentence, and appreciate the wisdom in them.  They are words to live by.

Intellectually, I know the key to happiness is living in the present moment appreciating the beauty of the clear blue sky or the magnificence of a dramatic stormy sky, whichever the case may be.  However, I have a poorly trained mind that pings around like molecules in boiling water.  One minute I am fretting about developing dementia and spending my last days warehoused in a “memory care” unit with a Nurse Ratched saying to me, “Now if you don’t want to take your medication orally, I’m sure we can find some other way to administer it.”  The next minute I am fuming about 2016 when Dr. Cashen and Holly made a medical error that changed the course of my life and did so with impunity.

When I am not in the moment, I don’t see the budding maple tree across the street though I am staring right at it.  I don’t hear the music of the chirping birds and the chattering squirrels though the sound vibrations move through my ears.  Though it’s madness to waste the present moment fuming, I have spent many hours that way throughout my years.  It is a habit I am trying hard to break, but I have to go there now in order to tell my story in the hope that others may escape being harmed in the American health care system.

On July 2nd, 2017, my sister Amy, who spends much of her life helping others get through hard times, and I loaded our luggage into my CRV, strapped ourselves in, and took off for Rochester, Minn. where the original Mayo Clinic campus is located.  Since Comer and Cashen had failed to solve my medication allergy problem and then abandoned me, I was in search of a solution.  In the month that I had been off the chemo, the rash had abated, but I knew each day without chemo was a day the cancer cells multiplied.  I prayed that the Clinic oncologist would have a cure for my allergy and save me from a bone marrow transplant.  In preparation for the appointment, I had contacted Washington University Physicians and requested that my all of my records be sent to Dr. Michelle Elliott at Mayo.  By the time I walked into her office, I fantasized, she would have a plan to desensitize me to the medication or put me in a clinical trial for a new medication.  Seven hours later we arrived in Rochester with Hope in tow.

On July 3rd, Amy and I climbed aboard a shuttle at the hotel that would drop us at the Clinic.  The city of Rochester caters to patients who come to Mayo from all over the world to be treated by teams of some of the smartest physicians on the planet.  Still, the shuttle could only get us to the front door of the main building; from there we had to find our way to Dr. Elliot’s office.  I was grateful for Amy’s presence for many reasons – a second set of ears and emotional support being at the top of the list – but her sense of direction was a close third.  I am like Wrong Way Feldman, the WWI pilot on Gilligan’s Island who inevitably flew in the wrong direction.  One would think an English teacher would know how to read signage and follow directions, but one would be mistaken in the case of Wrong Way Armstrong.  Whether on foot or in the driver’s seat, I somehow misinterpret the arrows or miss signs all together.  The Mayo Clinic campus is large but well-marked, and with Amy navigating, we had no trouble finding the hematology/oncology department.

We checked in and waited anxiously to meet Dr. Elliott.  Of course, I had Googled her, looked at her head shot and read about her credentials, so I knew she was Irish, graduated from medical school in Dublin, and wore her long blond hair straight through which her ears protruded, but none of my research prepared me for our first meeting.  When she slipped into the exam room, I felt like Gulliver meeting a Lilliputian for the first time.  She was a tiny sprite of a woman, maybe five feet tall on her tippy toes and all of 90 pounds.  At 5’8”, and 135 lbs. I felt huge and awkward.  She was cordial but not friendly and wasted no time on social niceties; like many physicians, she was all business.  She sat down on a stool, opened her computer, looked at me and said, “I have no idea why you are here.”  So much for my fantasy miracle cure.

Confused, I asked, “Didn’t you get my records?”

“I received some records,” she replied, “but they don’t explain why you are here.  You’ve been treated for CML since 2005 and the drug seems to have worked well for you, so I don’t understand why you are here.”

“Don’t my records tell you about my rash and the allergy I have developed to the medications?” I asked.

“No,” she said, and I had my first inkling that something was rotten in the City of St. Louis.  “Why don’t you tell me why you’re here.”

So I went through the whole story.  I told her I had been granted a chemo break in March 2016 and was still undetectable when I went back to Siteman in June for blood tests.  She interrupted me and asked, “You were off medication without a BCR-ABL for three months?”

“Yes,” I answered.

“Why weren’t you put in a clinical trial and tested each month?  That’s the standard of care,” she said in an almost accusatory tone.

“I don’t know,” I answered.  “That’s just what my doctor did.”

She frowned and shook her head.  “Okay, continue.”

“When I returned in September, the doctor could tell from my CBC and an enlarged spleen that I had relapsed.  She put me on 400 mgs. of Bostulif a day.  That initially dropped my numbers, so after two months, she reduced it to 300 mgs. a day because the side effects were terrible.  But then my numbers started to climb again, so she bumped it back up to 400 mgs.”  Dr. Elliott listened intently and took notes as I told her my story.  “Then on Jan. 1, 2017, I woke up with big red splotches on my face.  I thought at first that it was a reaction to the crab legs I’d eaten the night before, but it turned out to be an allergic reaction to the medication.”

“How was that determined?” she asked.

I told her about my numerous trips to my GP, Prompt Care, and the dermatologist, all the salves and lotions they had tried, and the long months of taking heavy doses of prednisone.  “Every time I finished the prednisone, the rash returned almost immediately.  Finally, Dr. Cashen decided to put me on 50 mgs. of prednisone a day and then slowly wean me off it to desensitize me to the Sprycel.  But as soon as I was weaned, I broke out again.”

Dr. Elliott shook her head and frowned again.  “Prednisone doesn’t desensitize,” she said.  “It just masks the symptoms of the allergy.”

My head almost exploded.  “You mean I took steroids that made me fat, hairy, and crazy for months for no reason?”  She just reiterated that prednisone just masks the symptoms of the allergy.  I have learned that doctors do not criticize the work of other physicians unless they are being paid big bucks to testify in malpractice cases.  Law enforcement has its blue wall; the medical community has its white lab coat  wall.  I looked over at my sister.  Her expression told me that she too was appalled.  I’m not sure why, but having someone get angry with me and for me when I have been wronged feels really good.  There’s some sort of validation in it that comforts me.

I turned back to Dr. Elliott and finished my story with the fact that Holly had never returned my call, and that I had lost faith in her and Dr. Cashen.  Not only did they seem not to know what to do next, but neither did they seem to care much.  “That is why I am here,” I said.  “I’m trying to avoid a bone marrow transplant.  Are there any clinical trials going on for new medications,” I asked.

“No,” she replied.  “I’m going to set you up for some tests, and I want you to see an allergist and an immunologist.  You said you used to tolerate Sprycel well?”

“Yes.”

“But now you break out in a rash when you take it even in small doses.”

“Yes.  My hands swell up like lobster claws, turn bright red and hot, and any heat source burns like I’m holding my hand in fire.  Since I’ve been off medication for a month, it’s mostly cleared up, but a little of the redness remains,” I said as I showed her my hands.  “I also get an itchy red rash all over my face, neck, and chest.”

“Well, we need to find a way to desensitize you.”  She said these words with confidence, as if there was no doubt that desensitization could be accomplished.  Hope surged through my body, and I looked at Amy to see if she was as encouraged as I was at the doctor’s words.  Amy gave me a thumbs up.

When I stood up, to leave, I groaned and mentioned in passing that my thighs and hips were killing me and I was walking like an eighty-year-old woman for some reason.

“That’s the prednisone.  It causes muscle wasting and deterioration,” she said matter-of-factly.

Again, anger surged through me.  “So, the prednisone that I took for no reason not only made me fat, hairy, and crazy, but also weak, huh.  That’s just great.”  Dr. Elliott didn’t comment.

Although I was angrier than ever at Cashen and Comer when we left Dr. Elliott’s office, I was also feeling very optimistic about a transplant-free future.  Amy too was hopeful.  We decided to eat a celebratory dinner at an Olive Garden, and over salad and breadsticks and pasta, we shared our impressions of Dr. Elliott and Mayo Clinic.  So far, both earned top ratings.  However, 72 hours later, Fear would return and take Hope’s seat on the ride home.

Jilted

Since we are currently in the grip of March Madness, I thought it appropriate to start today’s blog entry with the words of an NCAA star of bygone days, Bill Walton.  He says, “I believe in science and evolution. I’ve been to the Grand Canyon.” Yes, water is an incredible sculptor, carving incredible beauty out of rock over millions of years.  The Canyon deserved more than a few hours of my attention and exploration, but my time and funds were limited, so I said goodbye to Arizona and pointed the car back toward New Mexico.  No more Truth or Consequences for me, however.  This time I was going to the sophisticated city of Santa Fe.

The drive from Williams to Santa Fe was only six hours, but “I pulled into” Santa Fe “just a feelin’ ’bout a half past dead.”  It is the oldest capital city in North America, and I felt like one of its founders.  Fatigued as I was I could not find my way through that city to Rod and Renee’s house even with Google Maps.  That city is the most confounding maze of streets and alleyways I have ever tried to navigate.  If Santa Fe had city planners as it was growing, they must have been devilish people who amused themselves watching tourists go mad traveling in circles searching in vain for their destinations.  And the locals have little patience with slow out-of-town drivers.  If impatient residents not been riding my bumper every second from the moment I drove into town and the roads were more than one lane wide, I might have had a chance at following the directions on my phone.

After my third time around the same loop of streets, I pulled into a parking lot in a little park and called Renee to tell her I was hopelessly lost.  She laughed and then jumped into her car to rescue me.  I followed her to a turnoff I had passed all three times I had looped around the neighborhood and up the rocky road to their mountainside home.  Upon arrival, I parked my car and did not drive again until the day I left town.  I didn’t need the frustration of figuring out a city more convoluted than my love life.  Coping with FEAR, that passenger I had picked up in Hot Springs, was quite enough stress for me.

Rod emerged from the house with a hug and kiss and muscles to carry my bag.  Renee and I hugged and laughed at my ineptitude (because she and I are a lot alike in that way) and she showed me to my bedroom.  The first thing I did, as fun company will do, was promptly flop on the bed for a long afternoon nap.  That evening we dined al fresco on their patio.  Rod and Renee are gifted chefs, so we ate a scrumptious dinner while looking at a spectacular panoramic view of the Sangre de Cristo Mountains.  Once again, Nature managed to pry my mind away from my own weighty woes, for a while anyway.  Hummingbirds buzzed around the feeders while Luna and Google, the dogs in residence, ran the perimeter of the property keeping intruders at bay.  I wonder: if you wake each day to exquisite natural beauty, do you cease to see it? Do the cares of day-to-day life blind you to Nature’s glory just as living in urban blight can?  Do people who live close to Nature suffer less depression than those surrounded by concrete, steel, and exhaust fumes?  I’m guessing they do.

Central Illinois has its own kind of beauty: lush fields where cattle graze, seas of tasseled corn that wave in the breeze, 100 varieties of deciduous trees that mute the heat of the sun’s rays in sweating weather, and prairie grasses and sky blue chicory that line country roads and highways.  It’s a simpler, less dramatic beauty in central Illinois than that of the Sangre de Cristo Mountains but no less deserving of wonder and admiration.  When my spirit hurts and world-weariness threatens to overtake me, a walk in Washington Park soothes me.  My favorite walking meditation involves a study of the park’s trees.  As I walk along the pedestrian lane, I focus on the vast array of designs, textures, and colors of bark, notice the different shapes, sizes and colors of leaves, and look up into the branches that reach toward heaven.  It never fails to take my mind off of whatever worries are plaguing me at that moment.

Ah, but I have drifted off topic.   “What is the topic?” you ask.  The BIG topic is my CML relapse, what the side effects of it were, and the meat of the story, why it happened.  But as I tell my story, I find lots of subplots are popping up.  Who knows – by the time I get to the end my story, my BIG topic might even change. For now it’s how I came to change doctors.

I believe I arrived in Santa Fe on Monday, and Holly, the nurse practitioner at Barnes, had promised to call me back on Tuesday.  Waiting for that call was harder than waiting for the phone call a girlfriend had told me was coming from Carl Rosenberg in 9th grade.  He was going to ask me to the spring dance, she said, and I was all ajitter waiting for that black rotary landline phone to ring.  The difference between the two calls, besides the obvious ones, was that Carl’s call actually came, and we went to the dance together.  Holly’s call never came – not Tuesday, not Wednesday, not ever.  At least Carl had the courage to tell me when he was dumping me.  He said he didn’t want to corrupt me (naturally he was kind of a bad boy), so I corrupted myself, but that is definitely a different story.  Unlike Carl, Holly just abandoned me. I was in medical crisis, she knew it, and she did nothing to help me.  To this day, I get a lump in my throat that acts as a cork for the primal rage that wants to scream in her face, “WHAT THE FUCK, HOLLY!  HOW COULD YOU DO ME LIKE THAT?”  Acting on that impulse would probably get me three hots and a cot in the South County jail though, so I will keep on stifling that anger.

That evening, when the workday was over and it was clear no one from Barnes was going to call me that day, Rod and Renee talked through my options with me.  I certainly could call Holly and Dr. Cashen on Wednesday and ask what the game plan was, but my faith in their desire and ability to get my CML back under control without turning me into a giant burning hive was waning.  Instead, I went online and did some research of other institutions’ blood cancer programs, chose two, Mayo Clinic and Northwestern, and submitted online requests for an appointment before I went to sleep Tuesday night. Mayo Clinic called me early Wednesday and scheduled an appointment for me only three weeks out.  Northwestern called me on Thursday but I decided to stay with Mayo since I already had an appointment.  With HOPE for a medical resolution fending off FEAR and the rash abating more with each Sprycel-free day, I relaxed a little.  The question of what my cancer was doing while I was off the chemo niggled at me some, but I tried to stay away from that line of thought and embrace each moment.

On a sunny early summer morning the three of us took in the farmer’s market and a university art studio.  Another day, Renee and I visited the International Museum of Folk Art, a museum I will never tire of, and ate lunch at a patio restaurant.  Another morning we wandered around old Santa Fe and the Palace of the Governors where Native Americans sell their handmade jewelry.  Then Rod went home, and Renee and I spent the afternoon taking in galleries, kitschy shops, and second-hand stores. One morning I woke to find Rod had stopped after his workout to pick up breakfast treats, blue corn blueberry lavender donuts from Whoo’s Donuts.  They are bar none the best donuts in the world!  I had a hard time being polite and eating only my share.  Not once in the entire week did I eat average food, whether we were eating in or dining out.  I imagine average restaurants, with the exception of ubiquitous chains like fast food restaurants, Red Lobster and Smoky Bones, die quickly in Santa Fe because there are so many exceptional places to eat.  We ate homemade pizza, steamed artichoke hearts, and kale salad on the patio at sunset on the mountain.   We ate a fabulous dinner at La Plazuela one night, and on another celebrated my cousin Cally’s birthday at Izanami, a Japanese restaurant on the property of Ten Thousand Waves resort.  The setting was lovely, the food divine, and the company even better.  I probably gained a few pounds eating my way around Santa Fe, but I don’t regret a single bite.

When I’d worn out my welcome, I climbed back aboard my CRV and headed for home, rather, the house I was living in.  If “home is where the heart is,” then Rochester, IL certainly was not home.  It was shelter from the elements, but some days a tent in a blizzard would have been warmer than that house in the summer of 2017.

 

 

 

Joy and Grief Remind Me I Am Alive

Battling cancer can be a very lonely experience, even for people who have big families and lots of friends or celebrities who have millions of fans around the world, like Alex Trebek.  I mean, no one can hide you from the Grim Reaper, and the best oncologist in the world can’t save a cancer patient from an aggressive and incurable form of the disease.  Feeling fearful is a natural reaction to facing our own mortality or that of someone we love.  The problem is that many of us don’t know how to cope with fear, so we end up giving it enormous power by trying to push it away.  Unspoken fears fill the space between the sick and the well pushing them farther and farther apart until they inhabit different universes.  When people confront the possibility of losing the cancer battle and the dying feel free to talk about their transition to the next realm, Fear loses some of its power.  That’s not to say that the pain of loss will be diminished by talking.  Human beings who love, hurt and grieve.  Trying to avoid the pain of loss just creates more suffering.

Born with a sensitive nature that I had no idea how to manage, I suffered from chronic heartache as a kid and got stuck in perpetual mourning.  I mourned the birds that died when they flew into the picture windows of the house.  I cried when a pet hamster and gerbil died in the night, and I found it belly-up in its cage in the morning.  I bawled when friends I adored moved away never to be play “In The Giant’s Tummy” again.  But when I really snapped, I think, was in 4th grade when mortality became real to me while sitting at a library table in science class at Butler Elementary School.  We were watching one of those reel to reel films that grew brittle and broke and had to be spliced back together at least once during every showing.  Back in the day when Pluto was still a planet, Our Mr. Sun, starring Eddie Albert and Dr. Frank Baxter, was a science class staple.  Bored with facts about hydrogen and helium, I was probably daydreaming about which boy in class I would marry when I heard Eddie Albert ask Dr. Baxter, “How long before he runs out of this here hydrogen fuel?”  I snapped back into the present.  Run out?  The sun is going to die?  Then we will all die!  I looked around the room at the other kids.  No one seemed to be alarmed.  Most of them just looked bored, but I wanted to scream, “Hey, didn’t you guys hear what he just said?  We’re all going to die!  So what if it’s 5 billion years from now.  We’re gonna die!!!”  I think at that moment, Fear took up residence with Grief in my heart, and together, they ran my life for the next thirty years.

I had no tools for coping with Fear and Grief, or any other emotion for that matter, so I stuffed my feelings and numbed out using whatever I could grab at any given moment: sugar, nicotine, alcohol, drugs, relationships, or shopping to name a few.  Eventually, these diversions no longer worked.  Dogged by chronic hangovers and haunted by a long trail of failed relationships, I reached my breaking point.  I was 38 years old, and I wanted to die.  Actually, that’s not exactly true.  What I wanted was the pain of the hopelessness that is depression to stop, and I thought death was the only thing that could kill it.  Fortunately, I lacked the courage to commit suicide.  Instead I sought help, made some changes to my daily habits, learned some strategies for coping with my sensitive nature, and slowly, one day at a time, recovered from a hopeless state of mind and body.  Then cancer came calling.

It’s ironic that just when I was learning to really live and enjoy my life, I was diagnosed with a potentially fatal disease.  In 2005, the average survival time post diagnosis for chronic myelogenous leukemia was five years.  I indulged in a thorough freakout for a few weeks.  I was a mere 44 years old and had only begun to get my head together, and now I was facing a bone marrow transplant, a process that cured some, killed some, and left many with life-long debilitating health problems.  Then I learned about Gleevec, a miracle drug for CML patients that had been fast-tracked by the FDA for approval in 2001 because of its life-saving potential.  The drug was so new no long-term data on survival rates had been collected, but it appeared to be helping people avoid transplants and extending their lives by years.

Within a short time of diagnosis, I started taking the daily oral chemo.  While the side effects were unpleasant, serious fatigue, leg cramps, and diarrhea to name a few, I was lucky; the medicine did control my cancer.  Still, I sometimes plop on the pity pot and whine about the limitations imposed on my daily activity by the chemo that I will be taking for the rest of my days.  When those days come around and I start singing “Gloom, Despair, and Misery on Me,” I know I need an attitude adjustment.  The other day I Googled “world’s population” and learned that 7,714,576,923 people currently inhabit Earth.  Then I searched “access to health care.”  In 2017, according to the World Health Organization, half of the world’s human beings lacked access to basic health care services.  For the very old, the very young, and the infirm, a simple case of diarrhea can be a death sentence, yet these people cannot get a dose of Immodium to save their lives.  In contrast, I have health insurance that pays most of the costs associated with regular trips to the oncologist and the $60,000 annual cost of my oral chemo.  I am blessed.

Another cancer-created situation that sometimes gets me down is living on disability.  Medical events of 2016-17 robbed me of the little physical stamina I had left after 11 years of cancer treatment and intensified my chemo brain so that teaching became too much for me.  I had to go on disability.  So now, the last four years of my teaching career which should have been my most lucrative years of teaching and the ones upon which my pension would be based are reduced to $28,000 a year, before taxes and insurance.  Again, I needed to get some perspective on my situation and turned to Google.  Nearly half of the people on Earth live on $2.50 or less per day.  Almost one fourth of all humans live without electricity (dosomething.org).  In contrast, I live on $76 a day which is enough to scrape by and keep the lights on.  I am blessed.  Still, my monkey mind often pings around with thoughts about my own selfish wants and needs and petty grievances.  When a real loss occurs in my life, such as the death of my elderly father last spring, my mind screams at all of the people busy living their lives, “HOW DARE YOU SMILE AND LAUGH! DON’T YOU KNOW THAT I AM SUFFERING? CAN’T YOU SEE THE PAIN IN MY FACE?”  Never mind that they are total strangers who just happen to be at the grocery store or the gas station at the same time that I, Alice Sue Armstrong, am there.  The world should take notice of my grief, dammit!  I am of sounder mind than I was at 38, but I still have moments.

I know it’s not rational to think this way.  What I don’t know is if I am the only one who experiences grief this way.  Is it human nature to want the world to stop and acknowledge my pain, or am I more self-centered than the average human being?  And does it even matter how others react?  After all, my thoughts and feelings create my reality.

Over the last 17 years, I have learned a few things.  1) Painful emotions will not kill me.  2) I must experience grief in order to move past it.  3) Without knowing pain I can know no joy.  However, I can’t always differentiate between processing grief and wallowing in self-pity.  When I can’t see where I am, I have to seek help to figure it out.  Sometimes I turn to a friend, sometimes a counselor, and other times literature.  One benefit of having been an English teacher for almost 30 years is the exposure to great minds I may have missed if I’d stuck with accounting in college.  One of my favorite units to teach in American lit was transcendentalism.  Ralph Waldo Emerson’s essay “Nature” is a glorious read any time, but when I am struggling with some sort of pain or misery, I reread parts of “Nature” and soak in his wisdom.  Emerson writes, “In the presence of nature, a wild delight runs through the man, in spite of real sorrows. . . In the woods, we return to reason and faith. There I feel that nothing can befall me in life, — no disgrace, no calamity, (leaving me my eyes,) which nature cannot repair. Standing on the bare ground, — my head bathed by the blithe air, and uplifted into infinite space, — all mean egotism vanishes. I become a transparent eye-ball; I am nothing; I see all; the currents of the Universal Being circulate through me; I am part or particle of God.”  Walking in a park or the woods, hunting sea shells on a beach or canoeing down a river, reminds me that I am not the center of the universe.  I am not apart from Nature but a part of Her and the great whole of existence.  Spending a few hours away from civilization looking up at the infinite night sky or out at the vast ocean helps me to put my life’s events into perspective.  So in June 2017, when my monkey mind chattered incessantly about the reappearance of my chemo rash, I headed for the Grand Canyon hoping Her magnificence would silence Fear, for at least a little while.

At a gas station on the edge of Truth or Consequences, New Mexico on a mild June morning, Renee and I say our goodbyes.  She is headed home to Santa Fe, and I am headed for Williams, Arizona.  Originally, I had planned to take a leisurely scenic route to the Grand Canyon, but I revised that plan.  First, I am sick and tired of driving.  Whacked out on massive doses of prednisone when I planned my trip, I considered only where I wanted to go, not how long it would take me to drive there.  So there’s a tip for readers.  Never make travel plans while taking steroids.  I had also entertained romantic notions about seeing charming mountain and desert towns in the Southwest, but as I discovered driving across Northern Texas, quaint small town America with Mom and Pop diners is just as dead in the Southwest as it is in Illinois and Missouri.  The towns I drove through ranged from small groupings of trailers where a few people lived in grinding poverty to a handful of dilapidated structures completely abandoned to birds and vermin. Gas stations were scary miles apart, and being stranded with an empty gas tank on a little-traveled road in the desert wind and heat does not strike me as an exciting adventure.  Finally, the sun blaring through the windshield felt like scalding water being poured on my fingers and the backs of my hands where the chemo rash had reappeared.  Finding a place to hold the steering wheel where the sun didn’t shine on my skin was tricky, so I wanted to get to Williams as fast as I could.  I took U.S. 60, to I 40 where the speed limit was 75.  I figured I could drive 84 without getting a ticket, and I hauled ass all the way to Flagstaff where I hit heavy traffic.

By late afternoon I arrive at my motel in Williams, check in, and take a stroll down Route 66.  While this six block stretch of town is definitely touristy, it is also quaint.  The locals have been wise guardians of history maintaining the original architecture of the buildings, some of which are constructed of flagstone from nearby quarries.  I contemplate my options for dinner and choose Rod’s Steakhouse despite the fact that I don’t eat red meat.  It’s the neon sign in the shape of a steer that wins me over.  I receive excellent service and eat a delicious shrimp dinner.  I strongly recommend Rod’s to anyone going to Williams.  With a happy belly and satisfied taste buds, I leave the restaurant and walk across the street to my motel room for a good night’s sleep.

I wake the next morning, excited about the day ahead.  On the recommendation of a few friends, I had decided to take the train up to the southern rim of the canyon rather than drive.  I heard parking can be difficult and the trek from the lot up to the rim arduous for a medically challenged 55 year old.  Besides, I think, on the train I will be able to enjoy the scenery on the way up instead of focusing on the road and the vehicles all around me.  Not long into the trip I regret my choice.  The mountain scenery consists of pine trees, brush and cactus.  And the train chugs sloooooooowly up the mountain.  For a moment I think I am on The Little Engine That Could, but it can’t.

To prevent boredom, an attendant who is both a story-teller and historian staffs each car.  The attendant in my car is a perky young woman in her early thirties who teaches kindergarten in Phoenix 9 months of the year and spends her summers working on the Grand Canyon Railway.  Her lively narratives are punctuated by the appearance of guitar-strumming cowboys, gnarly-looking train robbers, criminal-stalking lawmen, and photographers offering to take the family’s photo and sell it to them for a pretty price. The woman with the camera asks every group in the car if they would like their photo taken, but she does not ask me.  In fact, she doesn’t even look at me.  I guess my solo female presence makes her uncomfortable (I am the only person riding the train alone today) or she assumes that a lone traveler will not be interested in commemorating the occasion with a souvenir photo.  She was right about that of course, but feeling invisible was a strange sensation.

Two hours and fifteen minutes after departing Williams, we pull into the station at the southern rim.  By car, the trip is only an hour and a heck of a lot cheaper.  However, as I climb the steps from the depot to Grand Canyon Village, my train regret vanishes.  Between the thin air at the altitude of 7,000 feet and my cancer-induced fatigue, I barely make it up the first set of steps.  People a few decades older and lots of pounds heavier than I stroll easily past me. Mildly embarrassed by my lack of physical stamina, I find a rock to perch on and catch my breath before I tackle the next flight of stairs.  Later I learn that the heavy dose of prednisone I was on for months destroyed a lot of my muscle mass, but at the time I thought I was just pathetically out of shape.  Anyway, if I’d driven I may not have made the long walk from the parking lot to Grand Canyon Village.

Now, one might think that after driving 1,900 miles and riding on a train for 2.25 hours to see the Grand Canyon, I would head directly for an excellent viewing spot, but that is not what I did.  Instead, I made a beeline for the El Tovar Hotel dining room for sustenance.  After eating a big salad and an order of fries, I felt my strength was somewhat restored and then went outside to explore.  The view was worth every mile I drove.  Neither word depictions, nor photos, nor videos can do justice to the Grand Canyon, so I won’t even try to put my experience into words.  What I can say is that Ralph Waldo Emerson is right about Nature.  She can make you forget about your problems for a while and remind you that you are a part of something much larger than yourself.  I took in the view from various spots, watched a troupe of Native American youth perform some stunning dances, and toured the shops.  It was a fabulous day.  Exhausted on the return trip, I dozed while the cowboys entertained the kids.  Someday I would like to return and drive the perimeter of the Grand Canyon.  It really is something to behold.

I spend one more night in Williams and then head for Santa Fe where I will spend a week in the mountains with Rod and Renee, two of my favorite people on Earth. There I will hit the trifecta of enjoying Nature, laughter, and love all in one sweet home.

Fear and Loathing in Truth or Consequences New Mexico

When the first signs of my chemo rash appear in Hot Springs, Arkansas, I pick up a companion for the rest of my road trip; her name is Fear, and she is a master story-teller.  She spins tales of doctors and nurses, hypodermic needles and IV’s, isolation rooms and ICU’s, stories as bleak as the landscape I traverse on my way to the next hot springs bath house in Truth or Consequences, New Mexico. Fear makes me promise that if I get graft vs. host disease from the bone marrow transplant, I will go to Portland where one of my brothers lives, and get the Kevorkian treatment.

Fear gabs while I drive through Northern Texas, a land of vast stretches of red dirt whipped through the air by relentless wind.  I travel for hours without passing another vehicle or seeing evidence of human life, just occasional herds of cattle.  Once I come upon a trio of cowboys, bandanas tied around their faces, fighting the wind-flung dust to fix a fence in the middle of nowhere. The poor cows have no such protection from that airborne dirt.  I imagine it cakes in their ears, eyes, and nostrils, and my heart hurts for them.  That anyone manages to scratch out a living in this inhospitable place is amazing to me.  I am way to soft to live in North Texas.

The color palette shifts across central New Mexico from shades of red and rust to muted greens, grays, and browns, but the wind remains the same, and the long stretches between abandoned towns.  Every time I have the opportunity to get gas I grab it because the next functioning pump might be 300 miles away.  I also learn to use the restroom at every opportunity.  New Mexico may have rest stops on its interstates, but none exist on U.S. 380, and unlike Illinois, where I can use a cornfield in an emergency, New Mexico waysides consist of prickly plants a few inches tall that provide no cover and might leave me with a souvenir in the derriere.  And while I often go hours without seeing another vehicle, I have no doubt that the minute I pull down my pants next to a cactus, a truck full of fence-fixing cowboys will crest the nearest hill, and in a rush to finish, I will lose my balance and get a bottom full of prickly pear pancakes.

Two long days of driving after leaving Hot Springs, I pull into Truth or Consequences.  It is only late afternoon, but the town looks nearly deserted.  On line, it looked like a quaint, thriving community of stucco houses painted bright colors, kitschy shops, and trendy cafes selling lattes and fresh-baked pastries.  In person, it looks like any other slowly suffocating small community where the young people with ambition leave, the young people without dreams smoke meth, and the old people wonder what happened to their beloved hometown.  I get out of the car, and grit my teeth while stretching through the pain in my hips and thighs.  For the past few days I have been slightly stooped like an 80-year-old woman because pain washes from my waist all the way down through my feet when I walk, something else Fear likes to talk about.  As I approach the office of the Pelican Spa, I look around at the cute little cottages and look forward to flopping on a bed and sleeping for ten hours.  The clerk hands me a key and gives me directions to my room.  As it turns out, I do not get one of the quaint cottages.  I am to be housed on the second floor of a two-story building a block away.

Back in the car, I follow the woman’s directions to a two-story structure painted bright pink.  When I pull to the back where the stairs are, only one other person is around, a young man who is clearly tweaking, walking down the sidewalk across the street.  He is talking loudly to himself and gesticulating wildly.  I wait until he is out of sight to get out of the car, grab my suitcase, and climb the stairs to my room.  I don’t recall ever being this tired before in my life.  Once inside, I turn on the air conditioner and get a jet stream of mold blown directly into my face.  Yuck! Too tired to complain about it to the clerk, I turn to the bathroom.  On the shower floor a two-inch bug, beetle or roach I do not know, lies dead on its back, all six legs reaching up.  I squat over the toilet to pee, lie down on top of the covers, pray for no bed bugs, and drop into a dreamless sleep.

A few hours into my nap, my stomach wakes me demanding to be fed.  The town is small, so I figure I can just drive around a bit and find someplace to grab a sandwich.  I am wrong.  The only place open is the brand new super-sized Wal-Mart on the edge of town.  Resenting “progress” but too hungry to dine on principles, I enter the monstrosity, grab a container of Sabra Supremely Spicy Humus, a box of crackers, an apple, and a giant chocolate chip cookie.  I eat the cookie on the drive back to the Pelican.  As I open the door, the moldy air rushes to greet me and my stomach flips, but I forge ahead.  There is no one on duty at the office in the evening, and I am too tired to move anyway.  After quieting my stomach with a few bites of food, I fall back asleep.  An hour later, something wakes me.  I’m not sure what it is.  Just as I begin to drift off again, the yapping of a chihuahua type dog wakes me, and it sounds like it’s coming from the room below me.  The cursing that goes through my head should not be recorded in print.  That goddamn dog yaps all night long, and I long for Seinfeld’s Newman to dognap the little fucker and ditch it somewhere miles away.

When the sun rises, I drag myself out of bed, sick to my stomach from breathing mold all night, sleep-deprived from a yapping chihuahua, and grossed out by the dead bug in the shower.  Stomping down the stairs hoping to disturb the sleep of the dog and its person, I vow to get my money back and get the hell away from the Pelican Spa.  I throw my suitcase in the car, peel out of my parking space throwing a little gravel at the building, and speed down the block to the Pelican Spa office.  My aunt, Renee, is supposed to meet me at the Spa this afternoon and spend the night in Truth or Consequences with me.  I tell the clerk about the mold, the roach, and the dog, and she gives me attitude!  So I tell her not to take my word for it but go check the room out for herself.  To her credit, she does and her attitude changes.  She offers to upgrade our rooms to the cute little cottages, Renee’s upgrade free and mine at no charge at all, and I accept.  It’s the path of least resistance, and I am tired of fighting, tired of fighting cancer, doctors and nurses, my husband, and most of all the rash.

Between the time I left Hot Springs and arrived in Truth or Consequences, the chemo rash reappeared on my hands.  Grasping the steering wheel, my bright red fingers burned when the sun shone on them through the windshield.  Renee arrives, and I cry as I tell her about the rash relapse.  We settle into our cottage rooms, and then I call Holly at Washington University Physicians to tell her about the latest development.  She instructs me to quit taking the Sprycel immediately, but beyond that, she had no idea what I should do because Dr. Cashen is out of town and won’t return until the following week.  I make her promise that she will call me Tuesday when Cashen returns and tell me what the plan is.  Thinking that a bone marrow transplant is imminent, I am hysterical while talking with Holly.  She has no words of comfort for me.  I hang up and feel overwhelming gratitude for Renee’s company.  She is one of my favorite people in the world, and the 24 hours I am with her, Fear will be muted, and I will enjoy the moments as they come.

Renee and I find our accommodations are better than my pink palace room but still far from ideal.  Decorated with vintage furnishings, the cottages are cute but have not been well-maintained.  As I try to close a curtain, the bracket that holds the rod falls out of the wall and the rod hits me in the head.  In her bathroom, Renee slips on a rug that has no pad on the slick tile floor and whacks her head on a cement shower base suffering a mild concussion.  Though we manage to laugh a lot despite our head injuries, we are glad to escape Truth or Consequences alive on a Saturday morning.  Renee heads north back home to Santa Fe, and I drive west towards Arizona to take a gander at the Grand Canyon.  If the majesty of one of Mother Nature’s greatest works of art can’t distract me from Fear’s chatter, then nothing can.

 

You want me to do WHAT?

Today I pick up my story on Feb. 27th, 2017 with a trip to the South County Siteman Cancer Institute clinic.

Plagued with a painful, unsightly rash and the worst headaches of my life, I am relieved to be only yards away from the South County clinic where I hope to get relief from my misery.  The clinic is housed in a brand-spanking-new building characterized by sweeping lines and walls of windows.  The cancer business appears to be a profitable one.  Once inside, I head for the check-in desk and Marge stakes claim to a couple of chairs.  Today the room is crowded, and since my appointment is a scratch-in, we are likely in for a long wait.

My mind wanders as I look around at the high ceilings, stainless steel fixtures, white walls, and glossy flooring.  The sleek lines, glass, and steel imbue the clinic with all of the warmth of the East Antarctic Plateau.  Although parking is free at this site, which is much smaller and easier to navigate than the Barnes Hospital office where I used to go, I prefer the old one.  On the 7th floor of a huge building across from Forest Park, the bone marrow transplant department shares the floor with other offices, so it is a very busy place.  Groups of comfy chairs and tables of half-worked jigsaw puzzles are scattered around the huge room.  Survivor messages of hope and courage sewn into quilts and glued on mosaics decorate the walls.  Sometimes a woman leads a therapy dog around the room to comfort patients and their loved ones.  Other times, massage chairs are set up and patients offered a free ten-minute neck and shoulder rub.  All of this helps to ease the tension that inevitably hangs in the air wherever cancer patients wait for the results of their latest scans and blood tests.  Maybe next time I will ask to seen at the Barnes complex.

Eventually, my name is called, and I am led to the next location of the hurry-up-and-wait game, the exam room.  The maze of hallways are all ultra white walls and glossy floors, and I feel like I should be wearing a straight jacket.  The nurse deposits me in a room, and tells me someone will be in shortly.  Sure they will.  As usual the temperature in the room hovers around 65, and I pull my coat around my shoulders.  This antiseptic room too is all white and stainless steel except for the blood-red plastic container hanging on the wall blaring BIOHAZARD WASTE!  I feel like a germ sitting here in this pristine environment knowing that disease-tainted blood is coursing through my veins.  To distract myself from my worries, I text some friends and scroll through the news on my phone.

Finally, Holly does the quick tap-on-the-door-and-enter routine.  Dressed in her white lab coat and carrying her laptop, she looks like a medical professional who knows what she’s doing.  I look to her with eyes pleading help me, but she avoids eye contact and busies herself with her laptop.  Once she brings up my file, she takes a look at my rash, tells me to take another two weeks off the chemo and then restart Sprycel at 40 mg. instead of 50 mg. and adds yet another round of prednisone.  I look at my records from the visit where she wrote, “I reviewed with her the pattern of her BCR-ABL activity of the past couple of years to emphasize the importance of staying on an effective tyrosine kinase inhibitor.  She is willing to resume the Sprycel and take it consistently in order to prevent relapse of the CML.”

Can you hear the steam blasting out of my ears?

Take a deep breath.  Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmm.   Anger will get you nothing but an ulcer. 

Holly devised her notes to imply that I had relapsed because I was not compliant with doctor’s orders.  Anyone who did not know the situation would read her notes and assume that I, the patient, had been non-compliant in taking my medicine and that was the reason for my “frank relapse.”  This note is an excellent example of what medical people who fuck up do to try to hide their mistakes.  I have never just quit taking my medicine without my doctor sanctioning a break.  Why? Because I want to live!  Yes, the last few years have been hard, and I have had moments when I felt like it was all too much to be borne.  I have experienced suicidal thoughts, but they were only thoughts because mixed in with all of the Comer-and-Cashen-induced anger, frustration, fear, heartache, and  physical misery are moments of beauty and love and grace that I would not trade for anything.  And I plan to keep experiencing all of life’s ecstasy and misery and everything in between for as long as I can hang on to this crazy ride on planet Earth.

I return home, and as usual, follow Holly’s directions.  The prednisone once again quells the rash.  On the 13th of March, I hold my breath and take 40 mg. of Sprycel and . . . the rash comes right back.  Again, I call Holly.  Again, I am taken off the Sprycel.  Again, I take prednisone.  I am Billy Murray in Groundhog Day.  In the meantime, any time I am off the chemo, the cancer cells replicate like rabbits, and the fear of a bone marrow transplant in my future looms large over today.

On March 5th, 2017, I return to South County and once again see Holly.  The rash is still with me, and I am miserable, yet her “Interval History” notes from that day say, “We went back to the Sprycel, but she also developed a rash since restarting the Sprycel at 40 mg. the rash is now resolving, and she feels better today.”  I flip to the next page of my chart and this is what she writes in the “Impression and Plan” section.  “We plan to start her on prednisone at 50 mg. a day for a week, then resume the Sprycel at 20 mg. a day and slowly wean her off the prednisone.”    If the rash were resolving, would she prescribe a massive dose of prednisone?

When I groan at the prospect of taking huge doses of prednisone, Holly looks from her computer to me, a fierce expression on her face, and scolds, “It’s a lot better than a bone marrow transplant!”  I feel weak for whining and slink out of the exam room.  Like the obedient patient I am, I fill the prescription for prednisone and begin taking 50 mg. a day.

On the steroid, I blow up like a tick sucking blood from a goat.  Pie . . . where’s the pie?  I need pie!  And anything else I can shove in my pie hole.  And sleep?  I have a vague memory of what it’s like to sleep at night, but my eyes are wide open as the dark hours tick by.  On the recommendation of a friend, I call Holly and ask for a prescription of lorazepam to help me sleep at night.  She obliges and the little white pills solve that problem, but soon I develop Cushing’s syndrome from all of the cortisol my body is producing.  The Mayo Clinic web site lists the following changes that result from Cushing’s:

  • Weight gain and fatty tissue deposits, particularly around the midsection and upper back, in the face (moon face), and between the shoulders (buffalo hump)
  • Pink or purple stretch marks (striae) on the skin of the abdomen, thighs, breasts and arms
  • Thinning, fragile skin that bruises easily
  • Slow healing of cuts, insect bites and infections
  • Acne

I develop most of the above, and soon, I don’t even recognize myself in the mirror.  Acquaintances often don’t recognize me either.  One day I meet a friend at Incredibly Delicious for lunch.  The woman in line in front of me is a person I have known for years, yet she does not acknowledge my presence.  I wonder if I have done something to offend or alienate her.  Pushing that thought away, I tap her on the shoulder.  She turns and looks at me waiting for me to explain myself.  “Judy,” I say.  “It’s Alice.”  The reason she did not say hello was that she did not recognize me.  It’s a strange experience to be so physically changed by a medication that friends don’t recognize me.

For two long months, I take prednisone and Sprycel together.  The theory is that the prednisone will desensitize me to the Sprycel.  The rash does disappear, again, replaced this time by the moon face and buffalo hump, changes that I hope are only temporary.  In early June, I take my last dose of prednisone and prepare to celebrate with a solo car trip from Illinois through Arkansas, across Northern Texas, into New Mexico, and eventually to the Grand Canyon in Arizona.

My first stop is in Hot Springs, Arkansas.  Once upon a time, people believed that mineral springs could restore health to people suffering from all kinds of maladies.  I wanted to honor my recovery with a soak in an old-time bath house.  I leave the Buckstaff Bath House feeling a little euphoric, but as I walked down the sidewalk toward my hotel, that euphoria evaporates like the bath house steam.  The first symptom of my rash usually appeared as a ring of raised skin that tingled all around my lips.  I feel the tingle, run my tongue around my lips, and consider throwing myself into the street in front of a moving bus.  The rash is on its way back.

We Now Return to Our Original Story

Between Jan. 1 and Feb. 22nd, 2017, I go to the doctor five times about the hideous rash creeping from my face down my neck, chest, hands, and legs.  My general practitioner, dermatologist, and assorted Prompt Care doctors prescribe creams, salves, and steroids, but like Max Cady, the villain in Cape Fear, the rash just keeps coming back to life.  When the dermatologist determines the culprit is my cancer medicine, I call Holly.  Without seeing me, she switches my medication from Bosutinib back to Sprycel but at a huge dose for me, 70 mgs., and on Feb. 22nd, I take my first dose at bedtime.  The following is a post from my Caringbridge journal about that experience:

“Last week I took my new medication, 70 mgs. of Sprycel two days and experienced a clear toxic reaction. I’m not prone to headaches, but my head felt like I was Zeus giving birth to Athena. The rash I’d been fighting for 6 weeks continued to spread and burn like a wildfire across my limbs. And for a new delight, I added violent retching to the mix. On Thursday Feb. 24th, I called my oncologist’s office. Naturally, my doctor and her PA were at a conference, so I asked the nurse to leave them a message: “I am not taking that crap again! It’s killing me!” She said she would pass it along.”

Actually, I am really not all that opposed to dying at this point, but not because of the physical misery that engulfs me.  The worst pain is the emotional devastation of being totally rejected by my husband when I really need his love and support.  When I am at my sickest, I cannot eat or sleep, read or watch television.  I just toss and turn and moan and groan in my bed day after day.  On the other side of the bedroom wall, my husband sits in his office doing who knows what on his computer all day, day after day.  He doesn’t even pop his head in to see if I am still alive.  In the evenings, he makes himself some dinner, watches television and goes to sleep on the sofa.  One night, when my head hurts so bad I nearly called 911, he brings a plate of spaghetti into the room, drops it on the dresser top, turns around, and walks out without so much as a word.  The smell roils my stomach, and I drag myself to the bathroom for some dry heaves.  Yes, if the Grim Reaper takes me, I think, he will be doing me a favor.

One evening, I feel well enough to sit on the couch and watch television.  Suddenly, appropos of nothing, he says, “You know, you could sell that medicine you’re taking on the street for big money.”  Dumbfounded, I turn and look at him.

“What did you just say to me?” I ask.  He responds with a blank stare.  “What…do you think I’m floating high in the sky on opiates?  If I sold my chemo to some guy on the street promising him a good high, the next day he would hunt me down and shoot me,” I say.  My husband and I live in the same house and breathe the same air, but we inhabit far distant universes, and separate beds.

On Feb. 27th, my best friend, Marge, drives me to St. Louis to see Holly.  Whereas my husband treats me with indifference, Marge treats me with concern and compassion.  Never again do I take my husband to the doctor with me. In fact, he won’t be my husband for too much longer.

Holly looks at my lobster claw hands, instructs me to stay off the chemo for two weeks, and prescribes another burst of prednisone.  In two weeks I will begin taking 50 mgs. of Sprycel each day.  I wonder now if she felt any guilt when she witnessed my misery that day, knowing as she did that her mistake was cause of it.  I wonder if she had any trouble sleeping that night, or if she found a way to convince herself that she wasn’t to blame.

Looking back, I see I was surrounded by enemies and oblivious to that reality.  Okay, enemies might be a little strong.  However, I am not sure but that my husband would have been relieved, if not pleased, if I died.  The same goes for Cashen and Comer.  I was a problem for them too.  My husband was supposed to love me until death did us part, but he did not, and my medical team was supposed to do no harm, but they did! Are people ever what they seem to be?

Two weeks later the steroid has erased the rash once again.  Because I was on Sprycel for years without skin problems in the past, I am hopeful that I am back on the road to rash-free remission.  I pop a 50 mg. Sprycel, and to my horror, the rash reappears almost immediately.  Distraught, I call Holly to report this development.  She reduces the dose to 20 mgs, but that reduction does nothing to mitigate the rash.  It appears that now I am allergic to Sprycel, and I am scared.  There are only five drugs that treat CML, and I am now allergic to three of them.  A fourth one does not work well for me and the fifth is used only in emergencies because it has a high incidence of causing strokes.  If I cannot tolerate Sprycel, a bone marrow transplant, a grueling procedure which cures some people, kills others, and leaves still more patients with life-long quality-of-life thieves like graft vs. host disease, is in my future.  It appears to me that I am between the proverbial rock and hard place.  SHIT!